In a TV matchmaking program, a female guest said to a male guest several years younger than herself, “I don’t mind if you’re younger than me”. The host was quick to respond: “You don’t care if someone is younger than you, but they care if you are older than him.
Multiple benefits of sister-brother relationships: big women and small men are more in sync physically
When men are in a rational state, when choosing a spouse usually tend to be younger than their own women, those who will marry a woman older than their own age as a wife, often inadvertently fall in love, which is why they choose to stick around for love. But there are also men who are attracted to women who are older than they are. For example, on my Facebook page, someone once asked: Is there a psychological problem with only being interested in women who are slightly older?
Also, some people want me to analyze the psychological motivation for “sister-brother” relationships, whether there is something missing and that’s why they want to find a sister (brother) to make up for it.
I don’t want to use psychoanalytic theory to explore the psychology of “sister-brother” couples, because it doesn’t change people’s relationship choices. I just want to answer the above question with one sentence: people do repeat early relationship patterns in their relationships, but this “repetition” is more concerned with the personality traits and love expressions of the partner rather than the age. Also, the old adage “to each his or her own” is a good answer to people’s questions about choosing a partner.
While “sibling” love combinations are not mainstream, they do exist and have many advantages.
1, Stronger relationship foundation
Society’s mainstream love While the dominant love combination in society is between a man and a woman, “sibling” couples do the opposite – it’s in a woman’s nature to pursue a man with superior resources, and it’s in a man’s nature to pursue a beautiful young woman – often because they do it from the heart. -The reason is often because they love each other from the heart, and go beyond the external conditions to love each other’s character, thoughts, values, spiritual pursuits, and other internal stability, which are the basis for a healthy love relationship.
2, Integration with each other adds more power
A woman in a “brother-in-law” love affair will be influenced by her younger boyfriend, who will be younger, more active and more vital than her peers. The man, on the other hand, will be under the influence of his mature girlfriend to expand his horizons and ideas and mature quickly. When two people establish a virtuous cycle, they will be more vividly nourished in their relationship.
3. Higher quality of sexual relationship
The often played out in movies The love story that often plays out in movies is that of a middle-aged man with a young woman. But that’s just a movie. In real life, it’s not a biologically correct combination.
The peak of sexual maturity for men is around 18-20 years old, then it plateaus and starts to decline after 30 years old, and the decline becomes more pronounced in the 40s. The peak of sexual maturity in women, on the other hand, is much later than in men, often until about 35-40 years old, while the decline in sexual maturity in women occurs basically after menopause at about age 50.
In this respect, “sister-brother” love tends to have a good quality of sexual relationship.
4. More intelligence in emotional management
It’s easy for men to to pay attention, but that prevents them from taking care of more than one thing at a time. Then when men bet a lot of energy on career development, they can seem sluggish and passive in their emotional relationships. Women, on the other hand, are naturally diffuse thinkers and are better at handling multiple things at the same time.
So when a relationship stabilizes, a woman’s emotional intelligence determines the success or failure of a relationship, and the happiness of a family is tied to the ability of the matriarch to run it. According to my observation, when the mistress of a family is not able to take the lead in family affairs, the stability and happiness of that family will suffer.
When a wife is older than her husband, her rich life experience often benefits her husband quite a bit, which in turn makes it easy for her to gain his respect and trust. Then when conflicts arise in family life, the husband will be willing to stop and listen to his wife, making it easier to solve the problem. At the same time, a mature woman with a certain amount of life experience is often able to assume the role of hostess very well. When faced with conflicts in a relationship, they tend to reflect more on themselves and be patient in solving problems, rather than just making a scene and putting the onus on the man who isn’t very good at it.
In this way, the success rate of love relationships is much higher.