When the sweet life returns to calm and the spark of happiness between two people is worn out by the trivial fodder and salt, the marriage may be in crisis. According to the relevant surveys, both men and women will be prone to cheating age, so why after marriage will have cheating situation occur? How can we prevent cheating? Here is a small introduction for you to avoid the cheating period.
Why do cheating situations occur frequently after marriage?
Loneliness
One wife said to us. “My husband Chang fiddles endlessly with his computer as soon as he arrives home. One day I went to the bookstore and when I tried to pick up my wallet the books and groceries fell to the floor in my hand. A kind man helped me lift the books and asked, ‘Oh, you like classics? A week later I went to that bookstore and happened to meet him again. The next day we talked for more than three hours. Things always go from there to there, but to be honest, it wasn’t sex but conversation that led to the development of our relationship. To Chang, I was nothing more than a reproductive machine, and that was all there was between us. The isolation was unbearable.” A person who lacks intimacy in their lifeaffectioncan’t find someone to share the big and small things in life with them. The feeling of loneliness will then arise. This loneliness is a major factor in extramarital affairs.
Monotony
One man said. “For 11 years I thought about other girlfriends but never really wanted to look for an affair. One evening, when I was alone at a party because my wife was out, a woman invited me over to her place for a drink or two. At first I was shocked and nervous and told her I couldn’t go. But that thought kept spurring me on, and two days later I dialed her up and it happened.” The lure of external stimuli is the second common cause of infidelity among couples. After five or six years of marriagethe passion begins to cool, daily life falls into a routine, the once free-spirited couple has children, andSexis always the same at the same time and in the same way. Extra-marital sex, on the contrary, offers many elements of adventure: flirtation, chase, danger, releasedemotionsand the trepidation of fear of discovery.
Lack of communication
We heard a description of a couple’s argument: “I was furious that my husband, Liu, never helped with the kids. I have my job too, and it’s irritating that taking care of the house has become my business alone. One Friday afternoon he asked me what I was having for dinner, and I replied, ‘I’m going to eat the northwest wind! After hearing that he was furious, I was even more furious. He ran outside the house and shouted, ‘I don’t have to put up with this!’ Later he told me that he had slept with his girlfriend for the first time that night.” Many couples have a damaging understanding of maritallife There is a lack of awareness of how to communicate, they blame each other, and as a result anger and frustrated feelings permeate all aspects of life, especially sexuality. Couples build and maintain relationships through the exchange of ideas and feelings, and sex is one of the most prominent forms of intimacy for emotional exchange.
So what can be done to avoid cheating situations?
Don’t make the other person feel lonely
Loneliness is a major contributor to an affair. If a couple lacks affectionate and friendly communication, loneliness is generated. In life, if one spouse devotes all his or her energy to work, and neglects his or her spouse’s care, the spouse will feel lonely. The result is that the spouse will be cold to the couple’s sexual relationship. When possible, then they will go looking for a new sexual relationship. Sex is the bond that keeps a couple in love; it is not only physical intercourse, but also accompanied by emotionalcommunication.
Don’t let life get monotonous
Many people are used to living together every day, and the passion they had when they were in lovehas now become cool, and there is no longer a sense of mystery about each other physically and mentally. If couples cannot explore and seek a sexual lifestyle with each other, the other becomes lonely and isolated. Some people who are not willing to be lonely will look for a moment of external pleasure. First of all, be sensitive to your spouse (lover) and be careful to understand each other. Sometimes, the wife will throw an inexplicable tantrum over a trivial matter. Can the husband be sensitive to the real reason for her tantrum? Some hypersensitive husbands are unable to detect the psychological motivation behind their wife’s temper tantrums and therefore confront her, which only results in worse! For example, your spouse returned home after work and suddenly behaved quite silent. At this time, can you take the initiative to ask each other’s inner feelings? It is known that prolonged domestic violence can easily create “cheating” problems.
Being able to handle sexuality
Gender In life, couples who mishandle their sex lives can plant the seeds of sin for an affair. In this respect the woman is very much responsible. Usually, men’s desire for sex is stronger than women’s, and sometimes they have to commiserate in front of their wives to get it. To take care of each other’s various needs. Even if a man is strict, he actually has a desire for romancein his heart; even if a woman is virtuous, she will have a little vanity. In short, a person’s inner needs are often complex and even somewhat contradictory. Therefore, in relationshipsand marriages, it is important to pay attention to each other’s inner needs at all times, and to meet them appropriately.
Take care to respect each other’s feelings
There are too many arguments between husband and wife, and the so-called “big quarrel three, six, nine, small quarrel every day,” then the feelings will be hurt and create a gap. “The company’s main goal is to provide a comprehensive range of products and services to the market.