I believe that everyone who gets married is convinced that the other half around them is the one for them in this life, but the reality tells many girls that you have chosen the wrong person to marry. He was so perfect before the marriage, but why are many things different after the marriage? Why would you marry the wrong person?
Not being honest with each other
Any issues that exist in a relationship between two people issues should be discussed. While some topics are unpleasant, they are the only measure of how well you can communicate, step back and work together. Difficult times and problems are inevitable throughout life. Before you make a commitment to your marriage, you need to know if the two of you can live with small differences and work together to resolve difficulties. Don’t be afraid to let each other know what is upsetting you. This is a measure of your ability to show your soft or vulnerable side to each other. If you can’t drop the armor, then two people can’t be close.
Having sex too early
Having sex before discussing marriage Intimacy is a pretty big problem because it often ends complete and honest exploration of important issues early. Physical relationships often block normal thinking, and in the absence of normal thinking, people do not make the right choices. And in reality we can see many girls who chose to get married in a hurry because they did not take the right measures to conceive a child. As a result, they encounter many problems after marriage.
No deep emotional connection
The measure of this is: do I respect and admire this person. This question is not the same as “Do I think he’s great?” A Mercedes will impress us, but we don’t respect someone because they drive a Mercedes. The qualities that make someone respectable are creativity, loyalty, perseverance, and so on. Another question is “Do I trust this person?” or “Is this person emotionally stable? Do I feel safe around him or her?”
Delusions that the other person can change
This is the classic mistake. Never marry for the “possibility”. The rule is, if you are not happy with the person you are with, don’t get married. A colleague of mine summed it up philosophically: “You can expect him to change after marriage, but in a bad direction, not a good one!” So it’s best to consider whether you can accept and live peacefully with the other person’s beliefs, character, personal cleanliness, communication style or skills, and personal habits.
Marriage due to urgency
25 seems to be a line in the sand for women. The line is crossed by someone urging you to get married and have children, as if not doing so is perverse. You have no choice but to accept the dating arrangements, step on the safe and sound road, you do not even know the pair to get a certificate in a hurry, the hall. It is true that singles are often blasted by the show of affection, especially when your closest friends are getting married and your conversation is getting sidetracked, you can’t stand being continually isolated and start to get anxious, uncertain, and eventually married.
Men don’t understand women’s needs
Men and women have their own unique emotional needs, and the truth is, men and women have their own unique emotional needs. The fact is that men are often the ‘unenlightened’ ones in intimate relationships. A woman’s unique emotional need is ‘to be loved’ – the emotion of ‘I am the most important person in my husband’s life’. And the husband needs to divide his wife’s steady, quality attention.
Too much trust in intuition
People who blindly trust their intuition tend to are also immature individuals, and when we have the autonomy to choose and the conditions for a romantic marriage, we instead become more indulgent and reckless. Maybe you pull out a ring and get down on your knees one day after dating your girlfriend for a few months, and send yourself to hell in what you think is a romantic situation amidst the clamoring and hollering of the crowd.