Yesterday one of my brothers asked for advice on a question. We are both in the US. He is very concerned about his relatives at home and calls often. If any uncle or aunt is sick and hospitalized, he worries a lot. But his wife said, “What’s the use of you worrying? In my eyes, relatives are all outsiders, even if they have a good relationship, I don’t want them at all, especially when they have been abroad for a long time and are not around, their feelings fade away”. My brother was very confused. He said his wife thinks that except for the immediate family, those uncles and grandfathers, aunts and uncles, cousins and what not, they are not important to her, and she does not care. I asked him if his wife doesn’t have much contact with relatives, he said no, relatives on both sides of his parents are good according to the feelings, and not bad for her, although there are also feelings in general. After they came to the United States, there are business trips to relatives also visit the door, back home, people also warm hospitality, let them live at home, every day please eat good food.
I have to say, this kind of woman is not without. Many women, especially women with children, is that in addition to the husband and children’s parents, others are “outsiders”, selfish and indifferent performance in front of outsiders. She is good to you, good to the children, is enough.
From my personal experience, although some women will scold their relatives bad, but blood is thicker than water, they will usually remember their relatives, something will help. I don’t really have much contact with people like this one. What is everyone’s experience? How many of these women have you met in your life? Is there a difference in culture?