Many people keep saying they can’t make friends and are lonely and isolated. These people usually feel they have no problems in socializing and communicating, but they don’t have a few sincere friends, why is that? In fact, when we give respect to others, we should give sincere respect, this respect is not the subservience to power, not the fear of fame, not the reverence for wealth, but the courtesy, trust and admiration for the personality of others. So, there are 8 mistakes you must not make when dealing with people, everyone must pay attention!
First, always repeating what others say
Parroting is cute, but if you listen to it for a long time, you will inevitably find it boring and uninteresting. The first thing you need to do is to explain or repeat what others have said, such as when people say “this TV is great” and you say “yeah, it’s really good”, which can make people feel like they lack substance. It’s a good idea to add some commentary, such as “The lead actress has a very original look,” or to offer the opposite viewpoint to open up the conversation.
Second, people like to elevate themselves
When a person shows themselves too much, even if they don’t talk about others, they are in fact intentionally or unintentionally being derogatory in some way, which breeds an uncomfortable feeling of being belittled.
Third, a flat, unemotional tone
Good interpersonal communication is lively and passionate. If the face is expressionless and the tone of voice is unchanged from beginning to end, the other party will easily fall asleep. Therefore, it is important to change the tone and speed of speech, and emphasize the key points with gestures and expressions, in order to mobilize the listener’s interest.
Fourth, always push people
Don’t push people once you’ve been rejected if you ask for something. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Fifth, self-centered
Some people never talk about anything but themselves, even if they ask someone “where did you go yesterday”, they want to turn it around on themselves, which can easily cause resentment and rejection. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Sixth, lack of etiquette
Respect is usually expressed in terms of both personal respect and respect for etiquette. The latter respect on both sides of the relationship is based primarily on etiquette, while the former has a personality component in addition to the characteristics of etiquette. For example, qualities such as another person’s integrity and kindness can prompt us to give respect beyond etiquette, but this is not the same as saying that one can be etiquetteally disrespectful without knowing his virtues.
Seventh, never joke
A serious, uptight conversation hardly evokes the desire to continue the exchange next time. The first thing you need to do is to prepare some “alternative” answers, or make a little joke to surprise the other person and break the ice.
Eighth, give in return
Helping others is an important aspect of earning respect, but when we seek to repay, or even ask for something in exchange, we lose the respect we deserve, because the transaction itself is not about respect. We must acknowledge that human intercourse has always had a utilitarian dimension, but the utilitarianism sought by emotion is never the utilitarianism sought by trade. Any act of kindness will sooner or later be compensated for, but that compensation is not demanded by us, but willingly reciprocated by those who are respected.
If one day some well-groomed people suddenly turn sternly on us or brush us off, we should look in the mirror and find our own mistakes.
Just as there are limits to human interaction, so there are limits to respect. The first thing you need to do is to take a look at the actual situation. In this sense. The “respect” that is overemphasized and exaggerated is also a mistake.
Human beings are herd animals. If you want to not be alone, you must learn how to get along with people, make more friends, and you will be much smoother in your work and life.
What we treat others with, others will treat us with the same attitude in return. Politeness earns politeness and anger often returns anger. How others treat us is what we teach them. If you want to get, you must first give.